Synopsis: Do not let the judgement of others define your self-esteem. Keep your self-esteem high; love and value yourself. Be your own judge and a compassionate one in that.
Grow a thicker skin. Learn to let criticism from others roll off your back. Don't take too seriously what "they" say. It doesn't matter what they say. They don't know any better. They are not your friends; they don't love you; they won't provide for you and your family; they say what they say only to fill time. It is because they have no goals of their own that they resort to judgement and gossip for their amusement. They talk out of habit.
In the end, they will have nothing to show for. You just keep your eyes on your goal and keep working.
The only person whose verdict must really count for you is your own. Listen to what they say, but do what you have decided. You be your most critical and yet most compassionate appraiser.
When you get what you want in your struggle for self
And the world makes you king for a day
Just go to the mirror and look at yourself
And see what that man has to say.
For it isn't your Father or Mother or wife
Whose judgement upon you must pass.
The fellow whose verdict counts most in your life
Is the one staring back from the glass.
Some people may call you a straight shooting chum
And call you a wonderful guy,
but the man in the glass says you're only a bum
If you can't look him straight in the eye.
He's the fellow to please, never mind all the rest
For he's with you clear to the end,
And you have passed your most dangerous test
If the man in the glass is your friend.
You may face the whole world down the pathway of life
And get pats on the back when you pass,
But your final reward will be heartache and strife
If you've cheated the man in the glass.
- There, my blessing with thee! from Act I, Scene III, Hamlet, William Shakespeare (video).
- The Cavalry Ain't Coming, the first episode of the I Am A Goal Achiever podcast.